Rules. It seems they just get in the way, sometimes, don’t they?
In parenting they can be a lifesaver, but so hard to implement it seems. We want to give our children all they want and then some. We don’t want to be the bad guy and have to set boundaries most of the time. We also don’t want wild, out of control children do we?
Rules without relationship will end in rebellion. Relationship without rules will create chaos. Relationship and rules will create the environment that God wants for our homes and the pattern He wants for our children.
If God, our heavenly Father, has rules for us (and he does, just check out Genesis through Numbers), then shouldn’t we have them for our children? It’s not always fun to set up boundaries, but it’s necessary for them to learn to thrive and grow as God desires.
We also can’t just be an enforcer. We have to love them and cultivate a relationship with them. They will know if we truly love them by the way we treat them and talk to them. If the Father only laid down the law and never loved on us, how would we feel? We would feel beat down and discouraged.
So there is a balance and we have to find it, we can find it by looking to the Father’s example. Our love for our children should compel us to have boundaries and teach them things they can and cannot do each day.
Those teachings will set them up for adulthood, so I encourage you to find that balance. Enforce the rules, but let love be the driving force when you do so.
Father, thank You for our children and the privilege to teach them. You are the best example of a Father and parent. Help us to look to You for guidance as we teach them Your ways. Help us to teach them how to thrive in life and grow into pleasant adults. Thank You for Your teachings and instructions that You give us. May we hold to those and teach those to our children. We desire to be the parent You want us to be and we need You, Father. So empower us and guide us. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
And, ye fathers, provoke not your children to wrath: but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.