Love Letters

My sweet friend, Brandi, is sharing again today. I had a sneak peak at the post and you will definitely be encouraged by her words!



After ten years of marriage, you would think I would have this whole marriage thing down, that I would know the ins and outs of how to make it through life with another person…well, not so much. Although we have had our share of ups and downs and made it over the hill, still together and happy, there is still so much we both have to learn about being married. I doubt we will ever have it all together, all at once, but here are a few things I have learned over the years about being married to the one you can’t live with…but can’t live without! 🙂

Laughter- This is pretty much an essential part of marriage. If you can’t laugh with..and sometimes at each other, then it’s going to make things more difficult when life gets tough. You have to find humor in life, to balance out the stress that will inevitably come along. What better way to cope than to let out a belly laugh (and maybe even a snort or two!) with your best friend!

Openness- When you are dealing with other peoples opinions or emotions, its easy to clam up and refrain from saying just exactly how you feel about a situation or hold in your emotions. Doing this will eventually cause an emotional volcano between you and your spouse. A deep well of frustration and resentment, that will almost always erupt at the most inopportune time,  causing maximum damage and leaving chaos and destruction in its wake. So, it is always a good idea to kindly, gently, and with good intention, let your spouse know your thoughts and your feelings, and learn to discuss thing in a honest and healthy way.

ValuesHaving like-minded views and values goes a long way in creating the kind of life you want to live with your spouse. Your faith and beliefs, how you want to raise your kids, financial decisions-all these things give you goals for the future and, believe it or not, will bring you closer together as a family once those things are established.

EnjoymentFinding time in the midst of everything going on around you to enjoy each other is important.  You only have one life and it will fly by, so any chance you get, enjoy and appreciate your spouse, the love you have for each other and the life you have created together.

God brought my husband and I together and I am so completely grateful. Our love is strong but our faith in Him is stronger and I pray He keeps His hands on us all the rest of our days.

“Always be humble and gentle. Be patient with each other, making allowance for each other’s faults because of your love.”- Ephesians 4:2


Brandi blogs at And She Laughs in her spare time in the midst of being a wife, mother, teacher, chef, and homemaker. You can find her there sharing encouraging words and uplifting posts.


One thought on “Love Letters

  1. I can relate to each and every point you brought out so perfectly. It would be a helpful aid for a “Marriage Manual” if they make such a thing!! Keeping the lines of communication open in every situation is priceless!! One of the main things I miss is most is laughing with my dear Jerry. We even took it to the level of “silliness” sometimes and I can’t imagine what people would think if they saw us – but it was such fun and refreshing.


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