Looks can be deceiving. Things that appear beautiful and good from the outside may be rotting from the inside. As humans, we usually judge by the outward appearance of people, circumstances, and things. If it looks happy, good and pleasing to the eye, we assume everything is great.
We should never settle for surface goodness, especially in our marriage.
We shouldn’t want a trophy marriage, one that only looks good to others. We can pretend and put on in front of others so it appears our marriage is working great. We even may be able to fool others (for awhile), but we’re not fooling ourselves or the Father. It can be easy to accomplish if that’s what we desire, but it’s not what’s best.
It shouldn’t only look good on the outside yet not work behind the four walls of our home.
Not only does the Father see it, but so do out children. Life is messy and marriage can be too. We have to deal with attitudes, words, and actions. We can’t just sweep issues under the rug and pretend everything is perfect unless we want serious problems down the road. We create a thriving marriage by wading through trials, joy, and even disagreements.
Don’t let the messiness of life make you want to be fake. Don’t run from issues, deal with them. God intended on marriage to grow us into one. He doesn’t want us to pretend all is well in front of others if we’re at each others throats behind closed doors. He wants us to resolve issues and have a healthy marriage inwardly, not just on the outside.
If you’re struggling in your marriage, cry out to the Father for help. He can restore and give you wisdom. Don’t have just a trophy marriage, have a thriving one.
Father, thank You for truth and Your Spirit. Help us to desire the marriage that You desire for us. We don’t want a fake marriage and to only have a trophy marriage, but we want a healthy marriage. We want a marriage that thrives. Help us to grow closer through the days. Help us to deal with issues and cry out to You for help. Help us to honor You in our marriage. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
but let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the imperishable quality of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is precious in the sight of God.
I Peter 3:4