I know I’m not the only one… the only parent who wonders what is wrong with my child or myself?
We all love our children very much, but some days we struggle to make it to bedtime don’t we? It seems to be one thing after another some days or even weeks. It’s like they’re searching for the buttons to push that will annoy us. Then when I ask the Father why do they seem so unlovable at times? I feel a little pit in my stomach.
Guilty. Convicted. Busted.
When our children seem to be unlovable, we should remember we’re the same way at times. We should do what the Father does to us, that is, correct, love, and encourage. Our children go through moods and emotions just like we do. We can talk with them and see what’s going on so we know how to help them and love them better.
They need the same attention as the Father gives us.
It will be hard some days to extend and show that love. We’re human and flawed. Our instinct is to love conditionally. When our kids are behaving great, we treat them that way, but when they’re misbehaving, we want to act on our emotion. Even though it’s tempting, we shouldn’t. We should follow the Father’s example of loving unconditionally.
Even on those days that you or your children seem unlovable, remember there’s a God who love you both more than you can imagine. So extend love even when you want to lash out.
Father, You are so merciful and gracious. Thank You for loving us even when we misbehave. Help us to love our children when they are horrible and unlovable. Help us to act as You do and extend mercy. We can learn so much from our children if we’re willing too. We can learn to love without conditions because of Your example. Show us more about us as we parent. Mold us to the parent that You desire. In Jesus’ name, Amen.