I love words. They are so important and can do such good for others. Unfortunately, they can also do much harm for others. There’s a verse in Proverbs that says there is life and death in the power of the tongue. While our tongue cannot literally kill someone, it can change how others view someone. When it comes to our husbands, we should be very careful what we say about him to others.
When it comes to those around us, our words about our husband can either make it or break it at times. We’re all flawed human beings living in a fallen world. So we’re all going to mess it up from time to time. If your husband happens to mess it up more than often, don’t spread his downfalls, instead find the good he does. Speak those good things about him, not made up things, but the actual good deeds he does. We certainly wouldn’t want him to share how we messed up big time with our friends or family, so let’s be careful not to do so to him.
Not only should we speak good words to him, but we should speak good words about him to others.
We should desire to see our men lifted up and strong. When they hear us speaking well of them, it can help them to realize we aren’t embarrassed of them or bitter towards them. Our words have the power to give life or to death. It’s our choice if we want to put him down or lift him up when we speak of him. We want our men to be known in the gates as good and God fearing men. If we’re wise women, we’ll be careful what we say to others about our husband. Yes, we can acknowledge shortcomings between the two of us, but they don’t have to be dwelt on with others. That’s only damaging to our marriage.
So if you’ve failed at this, repent before the Father and to your husband. Ask the Father to help you in this area. He’ll show you what you need to see and help you speak words that edify your husband. Let’s speak good of our men to our others and our children so we’re being the wife the Father desires.
Father, we thank You for our husbands. It’s not easy being a man in this day and time. We pray You would give us the words to speak about our husbands that would lift them up. Help our husband to realize he’s human and we all mess up. Help us to encourage him not to get down and out, but to look to You, the perfect man. We ask that You would help us to hold back harsh words that would tear our husbands down no matter who we’re around. May we keep a guard on our mouth and speak good of our man. Thank You for giving us patterns to follow and words to speak over and about our husbands. May we please You in our marriage and in our speech. In Jesus’ name, Amen.