I️ have always wanted to be a good mom, I mean who doesn’t? As Moms, we want to be good at what we do. When I️ talk with other Moms, I️ can see that they love their children and just want to fulfill their calling. Yet, it has always seemed so hard for me personally. I️ don’t feel like mothering comes naturally to me. I️ feel I fail a lot and it’s at simple things, or at least that’s how I️ see it.
So what do we do? We look for something that we are good at and when we find it, we want to do it all the time.
Being good at what we do makes us feel good about ourselves.
For me, that is writing. I️ love to encourage and share life experiences with others, especially women. It gives me joy to see my words uplift someone who is struggling. Is that bad? Not necessarily. I️ just have to keep my focus on what He has called me to do versus what I️ am good at. With that said, the Holy Spirit speaks through me. I️ am not good of myself, these words aren’t from my own thoughts.The point is, what drives my feeling of success? It’s the fruit I️ see from my writing.
With parenting the fruit is harder to see right away. I️’m learning I️ may not see fruit from my diligence in parenting for many years to come (my Mother told me this in the early years of our first born). That doesn’t keep me motivated at times because I want to see the results instantly like with my writing. Disobedient children, bickering siblings, and whiny little humans make me feel like a failure. Instead of doing what they’re told or acting how they’ve been instructed (for the hundredth time) they do opposite and it leaves me feeling like I have not done my job.
Despite the fact, I️ have to keep on. The Father will give us glimpses that we are doing good. If we’re seeking to implement His guidelines into our lives, family unit, and children, then we have done all we can do. We have to rest in that fact and keep parenting though we don’t see immediate results. We do what we’re instructed to do and one day we will see the fruit thereof.
He wants to work through our weaknesses to show His strength. It’s not about how good we think we’re doing, it’s about His glory and faithfulness.
Father, thank You for being faithful and good. Help us to rest in Your goodness and not our own. Parenting is hard at times and we can’t see immediate results so we grow weary. Give us strength to keep on pressing through when we feel like giving up. Help us to feel Your presence when we can feel nothing else. Guide us to continue following Your ways with our family. Help us to stay focused on Your faithfulness and not our failure. The results we desire is our hearts surrendered to You and our children’s hearts surrendered to You. In Jesus’ name, Amen.