Think of a precious stone that’s been given to you. It’s shiny, beautiful, and special. You would take care of it with the utmost importance. You would make sure it’s protected and wouldn’t get lost. More than likely you would polish it as much as you could to make sure it keeps that beautiful shine. Now, think of your marriage. It’s just as precious as a beautiful stone and we should seek to care for it even more.
The assault on marriage has been going on for years and will continue until eternity comes. It’s not always a comfortable topic to talk about for some, but it’s needful and important. The enemy’s aim really hasn’t changed, which is to destroy marriages and individuals, but we still have to stay aware of his tactics. We should fight to guard our hearts so they will honor the Father in our marriage. I want to touch on some areas that are vital to our marriage and areas we should strive to guard ourselves in.
Words are important in our lives. They can change our moods in a split second. They can trigger anger, sadness, joy, and so many more emotions. We should be careful how we talk to others concerning our husbands. Not only being aware of not bashing him, but we should also guard against unwholesome talk that could lead to ungodly actions. Our bodies aren’t ours to give away to anyone else other than our husband and that doesn’t just mean physically. Our dress alone can spur thoughts that lead to talk that lead to actions if we’re not careful. Our intimacy should be between us, our husband, and God, not the whole world or the neighbor next door. Jokes or comments that leave others wondering aren’t the best witness if we’re claiming to be followers of Jesus. Our talk should be pure, wholesome, and filled with integrity.
This is one that Jesus spoke about very openly. He definitely didn’t abolish instructions from the Torah (Law/Word), but he upped the instructions in the Torah. He speaks of even looking on a woman (or man) with lust. So thinking it, is as bad as acting on it. That’s a pretty high standard we may think to ourselves, but the Father knows us better than we know ourselves. We are human and a handsome guy will definitely catch our eye, but we shouldn’t let him keep our eye. We shouldn’t go looking for something better if our grass doesn’t seem greener. Most of the time our looks will change, but that shouldn’t change our loyalty. If you do let the look linger, repent immediately and get in the scriptures. Our eyes should be for our husband only and vice versa.
We even have to be careful with our conversations with other men. I’m not saying we can’t speak to other men, but we have to be careful not to share so much that we feel a connection or a bond. That bond should be for our husband and not other men (or women). Conversation bonds people, it just does. Communication is the key to relationships. So if we’re communicating more with another man more than we are our own husband, it is going to lead to problems. It will be a road that you do not want to go down. We should be very aware of what we share with other men and anything intimate shouldn’t be shared. That may sound drastic, but our marriages are important. The enemy comes in subtly. He won’t come in with his plan laid out, he is deceiving and conniving. That means we have to be extra careful. If you find yourself enjoying a conversation more with someone other than your husband, it’s time to put a stop to that and seek the Father’s help.
The topic of protecting our marriage is a vital topic we should be engaging in on a daily basis. Now days it seems the “rules” of marriage are heading down a slippery slope, so it’s important to have some guidelines not to be crossed. These are the top ones that I think of and try to remember daily.
Don’t let the enemy lull you to sleep. Go pursue that man. Love that man. Pray for that man. Laugh with that man. Just don’t let go of that man. Your marriage is a foundation, one that your children will likely model in the future. I would say it’s well worth fighting for.
Father, marriage is a beautiful picture of Your love for us. We want to guard our hearts and minds so we can honor You in our marriage. Give us a desire for our husband only and a heart towards him. Help us to be careful in our relations with other men, even if they seem innocent. Help our eyes not to wander, but to stay fixed on You. When we do sin against our husband, help us to confess and repent. We want our marriage to be all You desire. Give us strength and wisdom to protect this precious gift. Help our thoughts and actions be pure in all that we do. In Jesus’ name, Amen.
The perverse in heart are an abomination to the Lord,
But the blameless in walk are His delight.